2018: Family plans and learning to be calmer
January 7, 2018
I never make New year resolutions. I always feel it can put a bit too much pressure on people and then lead to disappointment. Instead of resolutions I aim to make goals of things that I would like to achieve or happen in the next twelve months. Without too much pressure I enjoy looking ahead at the year to see what I could achieve. Now I am a parent I find myself thinking about this a bit more and the things I would like to achieve for myself and for my family.
In terms of family life my biggest goal for this year is to start the process of moving to a bigger home. We have been in our flat for over nine years now. I love it here and this was our first home as a family. We have so many lovely memories here. The first home we bought, decorated and made our own. We were here before Amelia was born and this is the first place she knows as home. We would just like more space. Mr P would love a garden and I know he would be in his element doing things to it. I also want Amelia to have a space outside where she can run around.
In terms of Amelia, this next year I expect we will see some big changes. Potty training, saying goodbye to the dummy and moving to a big girl bed will all be on the list of things I expect to happen before the end of the year. Looking at these they all seem like quite scary things but instead of fretting I am going to take them as they come and not worry. I spent some time last year worrying about Amelia and reaching milestones which I didn’t know how to deal with. I now know that nobody knows how to deal with these things until they come along and we just need to take them head on when they happen.
Over the next 12 months she is going to change so much and become even more of a little character. I can’t wait to see her grow more and see how she develops. I am starting this year with a more positive outlook on these things and not focus on worrying about the things I don’t know about.
In terms of me this year I want to focus on becoming calmer and relax more. At the end of last year I didn’t always feel that calm and sometimes found myself feeling impatient and anxious. Since becoming a mum I can see that I can be more impatient in some situations than I thought I could be and I don’t like this side of me. I also don’t want my traits to run off onto Amelia. I want to learn to relax more and take a moment to take a breath and think about things. I want to enjoy the moment more and not worry about the small things that really don’t matter. My priorities have changed since having Amelia and I need to remember that.
I am going to try and a be a bit more organised with certain areas of my life that I know will help me feel better about things and give me that sense of calm I am looking for.
It’s going to be a busy year and I am really looking forward to it and I hope I can make positive differences along the way.